Dating jewish people
It will be acknowledged, even by those unaware of this law, that the sense of touch in male-female relationships often constitutes a type of borderline where simple association begins to pass from the area of friendship into the area of intimacy.
In any male-female relationship, it is easier to maintain self control up to the point of physical contact because, from the moment of contact on, control becomes much more difficult.
If you take the romantic love angle too seriously, you will lose your proper place in the marital relationship and, with it, lose your dignity and your role as master of your destiny.
Young men, too, often employ a trickery more harmful and more dangerous than that employed by women.
Intimacy without true love, commitment and permanence is a price too high to pay.
Why does Jewish Tradition demand that the relationship between men and women before marriage stop at the point of physical contact?
Fall in love only after you have come to know yourself, not because you feel insecure and think “no one loves me”, and not because you don’t get along with your parents and are anxious to leave home.
Don’t let your craving for acceptance or love lead you to throw yourself at the first person who gives you a tumble or is “pliable” in physical conduct.
Jewish law states that once a young woman begins menstruating, she assumes the status of nidah, and remains, from that point on, “off limits”, in regard to physical contact with men, until the day of her marriage.As Jews, we take relationships between people much more seriously than does “society”.Jewish society cannot tolerate a situation where a young woman, or a young man lets her or himself be used, taken advantage of, or hurt.All this is a matter of decency, honesty and fairness to yourself, to the other person involved, and to your family and Jewish tradition.It is a pre-condition of authentic and lasting love.