If we didn't, we would have settled a long time ago.Dating in your late 30s (especially if you are dating after divorce with kids like me) is sort of like sifting through a garbage can, hoping to find a huge diamond and a pair of Manolo Blahniks.We know that relationships are a truly amazing addition to our lives, but they do not our lives.By our 30s, we have created happy, full lives for ourselves, and know that we don't need a relationship to make us whole.Many of us in our 30s who are single have had the opportunity for that kind of marriage (or perhaps, even were married), but knew in our hearts that there was so much more.
There are some guys we can be totally fine with having as a sex buddy or booty call; we know we won't get attached and that he's not someone we want to develop a relationship with.
But by our 30s, we have learned to see that our true value has nothing to do with a man or being a relationship.
You know that relationships do not make or break your life.
By our 30s, we care less about how we look and more about just straight up enjoying it. We believe in past lives, we yell VERY loudly when we get excited about something, we like , going to bed by p.m., and finding the perfect wine (to the point of sometimes being called a "wine snob") and I -- oops I mean, we -- have no need to hide or change those aspects of ourselves.
We don't need to pretend that we are into things like camping, sports, or certain bands or food the way we we may have done in our 20s to try to get a guy to like us (it always come back to bite us in the ass anyways).